Pic refCHOOSING HAPPINESS
Happiness is not dependent on physical objects.
Objects, possessions, gadgets etc. are designed to give us comfort.
Physical comfort is different from emotional comfort.
Happiness is our internal creation and can be created irrespective of external comforts.
We use objects as a stimulus to create a response, but the response is our choice. Different people create different responses using the same stimuli.
Problems will come, challenges will be there, but to despair or deal with them is our choice.
Happiness is the state of being: created while working towards the goal, not a feeling to be experienced after achieving the goal.
If we believe that happiness is experienced after achievement, then we create stress, anger and fear while trying to achieve it. Thus we ultimately do not experience happiness.
Before I take responsibility of those around me, I need to take responsibility for my own thinking and feelings. When I am happy and take care of others, then they will be happy.
You cannot make your child emotionally strong without being emotionally strong yourself.
Stress is a pain that comes to make us realize that there is something I need to change.
Stress is our creation of negative thoughts, which has an effect on our efficiency, memory power, decision power and hence our performance.
Stress has an impact on our physical and emotional well being and hence, any amount of stress is damaging.
Targets, pressures, deadlines, exams etc., are natural, but stress is our choice.
Stress= Pressure / Resilience , that is, inner strength. My first responsibility in any situation is to first take charge of my state of mind because that is the only thing which is in my control.
Our belief systems decide our way of living; we need to experiment with what we are learning, in order to change our old belief systems.
I dont want peace. I am peace. Now I will be at peace and do things outside.
Try a new belief system. Experiment with it. When you experience the result, it becomes the truth.
Every act I do, I will do it with the awareness that I am a peaceful being.
Unlimited Happiness is not dependent on people, objects or situations; no one can make me happy and I cant make others happy, till they want it themselves.
No one is responsible for my hurt, pain, fear, or anger . It is my own creation in response to their behaviour, and I have another choice. The choice to be happy.
CHOOSING AWARENESS
My responses to people should be based on my personality, not on the behaviour of others.
The way we think and behave, is not for other people. It is first for ourselves because we are the first ones to experience it.
Let us take charge of our mind, instead of trying to control others and thinking that if they change then my mind will be in control.
Let us choose how we want to think, feel and be in every relationship. We have always tried to make other happy because we thought when they would be happy, I will be happy too.
When we do something for others, let us first understand that we chose to do it because they matter to us and we are doing it for ourselves. Only then will we be happy.
Taking our mind off from problems by watching television, going shopping and other distractions is only a temporary deviation from the pain; it is not happiness because the healing has not happened.
Our personality is a combination of five types of sanskars - personality traits.
1. Some sanskars we get from our parents and other family members. We call these hereditary sanskars because we are within the influence of their vibrations.
2. There are sanskars we create because of our environment: our nationality, religion, culture and friends.
3.A very important set of sanskars are those that we carry from our past birth. Our soul carries its personality traits created in one costume to the next costume.
4.We create the fourth type of sanskars through our own will power. Everyone has the same amount of will power. Everyone has the same amount of will power; it just depends on realising that we have will power and then using it favourably.
5. The fifth set of sanskars are the original sanskars of every soul, these being purity, peace, love, bliss, knowledge, power and truth.
Self awareness means to just watch my thoughts, to be able to see what I am thinking and to be aware that I am the creator of these thoughts.
Next step is to check whether this thinking is the right kind of thinking for me.
We create 25-30 thoughts per minute- that is , 40-50 thousand thoughts in a day. Thoughts are the most powerful source of energy that we have, so lets be careful about how we use them.
There are 4 types of thoughts
Pure-Powerful, positive and selfless
Negative- thoughts of ego, anger that create hatred, resentment, fear, rejection , or criticism
Necessary - thoughts related to action; these are neutral thoughts, yet they can be pre-cursors to negative thoughts
Waste - thoughts about past or future- both not in our control, and so a waste of time and energy
If we change our thoughts, our words and actions too will change. Hence, personality transformation begins with our thoughts.
When we interact with people, let us interact with the soul, the pure being, rather than the acquired body, positions and achievements. When we talk through the consciousness of our acquired labels, then it is the ego of one talking to the ego of the other.
In any situation, we are playing our role along with the so many actors. Let us stop writing their script because they are not in our control. Instead let us write only our script. When we keep thinking of what others are doing, we are only depleting our own energy.
If other people are behaving in a reactive manner, at that time for me to remain stable internally, is strength, and hence peace is strength not weakness.
Anger is not strength. It is a sign that I have lost control of myself. Even hurt, resentment, are silent forms of anger, and damage me the creator.
My every THOUGHT is followed by a FEELING. SO if I am not feeling nice, I have to stop and check- what have i been thinking ?
My feelings over a period of time, created on the basis of my thoughts, develop my ATTITUDE- about people, situations, work or about the world.
MY attitude comes out into ACTION, Any action done repeatedly becomes my HABIT. all my habits put together is my PERSONALITY. At every step in life this personality determines my DESTINY.
I the being am an embodiment of 7 qualities - Purity, Peace, Love, Bliss, Knowledge, Power and Truth.
People predicting our future are only telling us a probability. It is only a probability, not a reality.
We have the power to listen to the prediction and still choose our response- that is, our thoughts and actions- and therby create a reality based on our choice.
We always think that we need to do things outside to change the way we feel inside. The reality is we need to change how we feel inside to change the things outside.
Happiness is not something that we should expect to get from other people- it is to be created within and shared with people we meet.
We are not 'human doings' doing things to be at peace, we are "human beings" at peace and doing things.
People say when angry, count one to ten; these are external measures to postpone our reactions. However, if we take care of our thoughts we will not create even the thought of anger.
Our thoughts are created based on our past experiences and the information that we take in through our sense organs.
During the first few hours in the morning, the power of mind to absorb information is very high. We need to take care of the quality of information we take in then. To protect ourselves from creating negative thoughts, we need to avoid newspapers or news channels or anything that has some disturbing information to offer early in the morning.
Let me try a new way of living, to be able to create pure, powerful, positive thoughts naturally. Let me begin the day by reading or listening to pure and positive information.
The last layer of information at night influences the quality of my thoughts while sleeping. So lets finish the day with few minutes of reading or listening to pure and pleasant information.
There is only one person who knows me well and thats my own self.
Be 'in-dependent' : dependent only on that one who is inside; because outside things will change and they a reason for changing.
Our thoughts are created based on past experience, the information we take in and most important our belief systems.
Its important to take charge of how we feel, instead of being dependent on others. To be INDEPENDENT means to be dependent only on the one inside.
Let us be ourselves and not keep changing our behaviour according to the way others behave with us.
Every time we think of the past, we are making it the present because we are creating the same emotions again.
The past is passed. Full stop. Let it not repeat in the mind; when you do, it is like rubbing a wound and therefore not allowing it to heal.
There is nothing to learn from situation that happened. The only thing I need to learn is whether I had the choice of responding in another manner.
Holding on to the past - not letting go- will only create pain within. The situation is the same but the longer we hold on to it, the pain increases.
In relationships, no one is ever wrong; each one is right from their perspective. Detaching from my own perspective and understanding the others perspective is empathy.
While working towards our achievements, if we take care not to compromise on our values of peace, love and happiness, we will be always contended.
